My God, do I ever know how you feel. For me, it's that very often it seems like a lot of box would just rather not thread with me-- I don't know why that always hurts, because it seems like they like me and are interested in who I am beyond threading. But ... in-game, I often do feel like a burden.

I'm also not trying to be self-centered or take the focus off you, I just mean that ... if you're feeling awful and like the dynamic just isn't working, it's not just you. It's not just you at all.

In-game, I know I'm a flake. I ask for threads or suggest them and then don't always follow through. But I try really hard to let people know I'm interested in them and what they have to offer. If I don't tag you very often-- and I'm sure I should be doing it more-- I will guarantee you it's because I'm afraid of imposing. That's just me; I don't think I'm one of the people you're talking about, but in that case ... um, it means I am *not* one of those last two you trusted, which means I've probably got more work to do.

(That, for the record, is not "work" in the sense of obligation. I,can always do with learning to be more courteous and generous with myself/my time)